Sunday, December 09, 2007

6 Tips for Single Moms: How to Jumpstart Your Dating Life

My inbox gets flooded every single day with emails from women who ask me, "Your advice is great, but I've got kids. Will it work for me?" The answer is YES!

All the advice I give single women can be used by single moms, too. Now granted, the dating pool for single mothers is a little smaller. To find a great and amazing guy, you need to work a bit harder - and learn how to flirt.

Here are a few tips that will help jumpstart your single-mom dating life:

1. Let's say you are eyeballing Tall, Dark & Handsome who is in the checkout line near you, when little Johnny starts to throw a temper tantrum. Instead of yelling at him because he picked the wrong moment to start a temper tantrum, look at Tall, Dark & Handsome and say, "

“Did you used to be like that when you were a kid?”

Tall, Dark & Handsome will start laughing, and you will start flirting while little Johnny continues with his temper tantrum. I can't think of a more romantic way to meet men.

2. You are in the supermarket
, and you and little Johnny are in heavy cereal negotiations. You want little Johnny to have the "breakfast of champions," but Johnny wants Lucky Charms. Tall, Dark & Handsome walks right by you. He's laughing and smiling at the ongoing negotiations. Instead of ignoring him, grab those boxes of cereal out of little Johnny's hand and say, "Excuse me, can you help settle an argument? I want my son to be a champion, but he just wants magically delicious. Which one would you choose?"

3. You go to the park and little Johnny is playing with little Katie. Did you ever think that Katie's father might be a single father? So, instead of standing in the corner of the playground, take a look at the man who's looking at Katie.


“Smile, walk over and talk about your kids.”

4. When online dating, it's really important that the first picture a man sees of you in your profile is one of YOU, not your family. Let him meet your kids when the time is right, but don't post the family on the Internet. When you do that, it looks like you are advertising for little Johnny's next father.

5. When writing an online profile, talk about YOUR passions. Talk about things you like to do besides being a mother. Sure, you can talk about how passionate you are about being a mom. But way too many single mothers write about all the activities they do with their kids.


“We men know how much your kids mean to you.”

We just want to know that there's a little time left over for you to have an adult relationship. So, in your profile, you could maybe write something like, "When I am not performing my soccer mom duties, I look forward to some one-on-one adult time with my friends... and possibly you." It's all about how you word it.

6. When you're on a date
, don't spend the entire time talking about little Johnny's math achievements or his ability to leap tall buildings in a single bound. Let a man know all about what's interesting about you besides your children. Keep things balanced -- talk some about the kids, talk more about you.

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