Ex Friend Or Foe?

You and your ex have decided to remain friends. Aw, how sweet. Well, the person you’re dating now doesn’t think so. What’s with the emails? The text messages? The birthday gifts?

Is it possible to stay friends with your ex and have a healthy relationship with your current crush? Like most matters of the heart, it all depends. Let’s take a closer look.

When it’s OK to be friends with a former flame
If there wasn’t any betrayal or a huge falling out over who gets to keep the Saved by the Bell DVDs, you may want to try the friends route. Here are a few situations where this might actually work.

You dated in a different decade
If the person in your past is ancient history, then your new amour shouldn’t feel too threatened. Says Keli Cannon, 27, of Portsmouth, “I have been friends with my high-school boyfriend for 15 years. He was and always will be my best friend, and every boyfriend I've had since has had a hard time dealing with that.”

That’s why, says Dr. Jane Greer, a therapist in London and author you need to take the initiative and explain the situation. “If you’re friendly with an ex, it’s inevitably going to make the new [partner] feel that you haven’t completely resolved the relationship.” She suggests spelling out for your current flame why you want to remain friends with your ex. Do whatever you can to make sure he or she doesn’t feel threatened.

You were buddies more than lovers
Dr. Greer says that if the relationship ended because you felt more like brother and sister than Angelina and Brad, you should be able to stay friends. Still, even if that relationship was totally devoid of chemistry, you’re going to have to make that really clear to your current love. Says Marcie, 33: “I am still really good buddies with Paul, an ex of mine. I thought that telling a new guy I was seeing that Paul and I lacked real chemistry would calm things down, but there was always the suspicion that Paul and I were sneaking around. I had to really reassure my new guy that, um, things were bad in bed for me and Paul!”

You feel comfortable saying, “Table for three”
It may be very “Come and knock on our door,” but why not just hang out together now and then? That can demystify your relationship with your ex. In this situation, you should be extra attentive to your partner. You’ll avoid any competitive feelings between the two of them and make it clear who is #1 in your life. Suzanne, 42, of Newcastle, says that when she goes out with her ex Steven and a new beau, she’ll lay it on pretty thick: “I’ll say complimentary things to Steven about my date, right in front of my new guy... things like, ‘Didn’t I tell you he had a great sense of humour?’ Little ego-boosters like that go a long way.”

When you should X your ex
Obviously, it’s going to make things a lot simpler in your new relationship if you can surround yourself with friends you haven’t bedded. And in some cases like these, you really ought to say sayonara to your past love.

Your ex still has that loving’ feeling’
“I always tried to stay friends with ex-boyfriends and it never worked out,” says Amy Reinarz, 28, of Albans. If there’s a speck of sexual tension left between the former lovers, forget about it. “Not only does the current boyfriend get jealous and suspicious about your true feelings, but it gives the ex hope that you two might still have a chance,” notes Reinarz.

You can’t picture your ex with another
Be honest: Are you staying friends with your ex because you still have some romantic feelings towards him... and want to keep tabs on him as you date around? Kristi Wyatt, 30, of Dover, thought she’d try to stay friends with an ex. When she saw him making out with another girl, she reacted badly: “I freaked out! As much as I want happiness for him, I cannot handle seeing my ‘friend’ with another girl.” If you feel that way about your just-friends ex, ask yourself what’s really going on—and consider whether staying pals is a good idea.

Your ex was never really your friend
If your relationship was more about hooking up than hanging out, you may have never had that friendship vibe. So why do you continue to keep this person in your life? Is it really worth potentially ending your current relationship? “At first, I didn’t know why I liked to have my ex Tony hanging around,” admits Amy, 37, of Portsmouth. “We weren’t good pals, but he was a sexy guy. Eventually, I realized that having lots of men in my life made me feel desirable. Unfortunately, I lost a boyfriend or two that way—they didn’t like Tony on the scene. I learned my lesson the hard way.”

Life's Little Instruction Book

* If in a fight, hit first and hit hard

* Keep it simple

* Always accept an outstretched hand

* Be a good winner

* Give people a second chance, but not a third

* Sing in the shower

* Beware of the person who has nothing to lose

* Marry only for love

* When playing games with children, let them win

* Be romantic

* Begin each day with some of your favorite music

* Count your blessings

* Lend only those books you never care to see again

* Whistle

* Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret

* Look people in the eye

* Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later

* Be a good loser

* Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday

* Keep secrets

* Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets

* Have a firm handshake

* Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them

* Avoid sarcastic remarks

* Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice

* Become someone's hero

* Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know

* Don't expect life to be fair

* Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home

* Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have

* Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick
to acknowledge those who helped you

* Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the
difference

* Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there
for your convenience, not the caller's

* Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need
only stay a few minutes

* Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on
your ability to deal with people

* Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of
how trivial their job

* Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will
come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery

* Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing
is as important as it first seems

* Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret
the things you didn't do more than the one's you did

* Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar
ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m

ATTITUDE

A little boy went into a drug store, reached for a soda carton and asks
him for a Phone Call. Shop-owner replied Sweetly this is no a STD, but
you can do one call.

The store-owner observed and listened to the conversation:

The boy asked, "Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn?

The woman replied, "I already have someone to cut my lawn."

Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price of the person who cuts
your lawn now." replied boy.

The woman responded that she was very satisfied with the person who was
presently cutting her lawn.

The little boy found more perseverance and offered, "Lady, I'll even
sweep your curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you will have the
prettiest lawn in all of North-Palm beach, Florida ."

Again the woman answered in the negative.

With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the receiver. The
store-owner, who was listening to all this, walked over to the boy and
said," Son... I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and
would like to offer you a job."

The little boy replied, "No thanks, I was just checking my performance

with the job I already have. I am the one who is working for that lady,

I was talking to!"

Your ALTITUDE is decided by your ATTITUDE...

A man without any bad habits

Once a man was waiting for a taxi.

A beggar came along and asked him for some money. The man ignored him.
But being a professional, the beggar kept on pestering him. The man
became irritated when he realized that the beggar would not leave him
alone unless he parts with some money.

Suddenly an idea struck him.He told the beggar, "I do not have money, but
if you tell me what you want to do with the money, I will certainly help
you." "I would have bought a cup of tea", replied the beggar.

The man said, "Sorry man. I can offer you a cigarette instead of tea". He
then took a pack of cigarettes from his pocket and offered one to the
beggar.

The beggar told, "I don't smoke as it is injurious to health."

The man smiled and took a bottle of whisky from his pocket and told the
beggar, "Here, take this bottle and enjoy the stuff. It is really good".

The beggar refused by saying, "Alcohol muddles the brain and damages the
liver".

The man smiled again. He told the beggar, "I am going to the race
course.Come with me and I will arrange for some tickets and we will place
bets. If we win, you take the whole amount and leave me alone".

As before, the beggar politely refused the latest offer by saying, "Sorry
sir, I can't come with you as betting on horses is a bad habit."

Suddenly the man felt relieved and asked the beggar to come to his home
with him. Finally, the beggar's face lit up in anticipation of receiving
at least something from the man. But he still had his doubts and asked the
man, "Why do you want me to go to your house with you".

The man replied, "My wife always wanted to see how a man with no bad
habits looks like."

Love your parents

"The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never.
A mother is something absolutely new."

My Mom


"The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny."

"I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life."

"Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible."

My Daddy

"How pleasant it is for a father to sit at his child's board. It is like an aged man reclining under the shadow of an oak which he has planted."

Love Your parents !

Azim Premji - "My Lessons in Life"

An Article Address by Azim Premji in the "Shaping Young Minds Program" (SYMP) organized by AIMA in collaboration with the Bombay Management Association (BMA) in Mumbai on "My Lessons in Life".

I am very happy to be here with you. It is always wonderful to be with young people. As my hair turned from black, to salt and pepper and finally salt without the pepper, I have begun to realize the importance of youth. At the same time, I have begun to truly appreciate some of the lessons I have learnt along the way. I hope you will find them useful when you plan your own career and life.

First

The first thing I have learnt is that we must always begin with our strengths. There is an imaginary story of a rabbit. The rabbit was enrolled in a rabbit school. Like all rabbits, it could hop very well but could not swim. At the end of the year, the rabbit got high marks in hopping but failed in swimming. The parents were concerned. They said, "Forget about hopping. You are anyway good at it. Concentrate on swimming." They sent the rabbit for tuitions in swimming. And guess what happened? The rabbit forgot how to hop! As for swimming, have you ever seen a rabbit swim? While it is important for us to know what we are not good at, we must also cherish what is good in us. That is because it is only our strengths that can give us the energy to correct our weaknesses.

Second

The second lesson I have learnt is that a rupee earned is of far more value than five found. My friend was sharing me the story of his eight year-old niece. She would always complain about the breakfast. The cook tried everything possible, but the child remained unhappy. Finally, my friend took the child to a supermarket and brought one of those ready-to-cook packets. The child had to cut the packet and pour water in the dish. The child found the food to be absolutely delicious? The difference was that she has cooked it! In my own life, I have found that nothing gives as much satisfaction as earning our rewards. In fact, what is gifted or inherited follows the old rule of come easy, go easy. I guess we only know the value of what we have if we have struggled to earn it.

Third

The third lesson I have learnt is no one bats a hundred every time. Life has many challenges. You win some and lose some. You must enjoy winning. But do not let it go to the head. The moment it does, you are already on your way to failure. And if you do encounter failure along the way, treat it as an equally natural phenomenon. Don't beat yourself for it or any one else for that matter! Accept it, look at your own share in the problem, learn from it and move on. The important thing is, when you lose, do not lose the lesson.

Fourth

The fourth lesson I have learnt is the importance of humility. Sometimes, when you get so much in life, you really start wondering whether you deserve all of it. We have so much to be grateful for. Our parents, our teachers and our seniors have done so much for us that we can never repay them. Many people focus on the shortcomings, because obviously no one can be perfect. But it is important to first acknowledge what we have received. Nothing in life is permanent but when a relationship ends, rather than becoming bitter, we must learn to savor the memory of the good things while they lasted.

Fifth

The fifth lesson I learnt is that we must always strive for excellence. One way of achieving excellence is by looking at those better than ourselves. Keep learning what they do differently. But excellence cannot be imposed from the outside. We must also feel the need from within. It must involve not only our mind but also our heart and soul. Excellence is not an act but a habit. I remember the inspiring lines of a poem, which says that your reach must always exceed your grasp. That is heaven on earth. Ultimately, your only competition is yourself.

Sixth

The sixth lesson I have learnt is never give up in the face of adversity. It comes on you suddenly without warning. Always keep in mind that it is only the test of fire that makes fine steel. A friend of mine shared this incident with me. His eight-year old daughter was struggling away at a jigsaw puzzle. She kept at it for hours but could not succeed. Finally, it went beyond her bedtime. My friend told her, "Look, why don't you just give up? I don't think you will complete it tonight. Look at it another day." The daughter looked with a strange look in her eyes, "But, dad, why should I give up? All the pieces are there! I have just got to put them together!" If we persevere long enough, we can put any problem into its perspective.

Seventh

The seventh lesson I have learnt is that while you must be open to change, do not compromise on your values. Mahatma Gandhiji often said that you must open the windows of your mind, but you must not be swept off your feet by the breeze. Values like honesty, integrity, consideration and humility have survived for generations. At the end of the day, it is values that define a person more than the achievements. Do not be tempted by short cuts. The short cut can make you lose your way and end up becoming the longest way to the destination.

Final

And the final lesson I learnt is that we must have faith in our own ideas even if everyone tells us that we are wrong. There was once a newspaper vendor who had a rude customer. Every morning, the Customer would walk by, refuse to return the greeting, grab the paper off the shelf and throw the money at the vendor. The vendor would pick up the money, smile politely and say, "Thank you, Sir." One day, the vendor's assistant asked him, "Why are you always so polite with him when he is so rude to you? Why don't you throw the newspaper at him when he comes back tomorrow?" The vendor smiled and replied, "He can't help being rude and I can't help being polite. Why should I let his rude behavior dictate my politeness?

I hope you achieve success in whatever way you define it and what gives you the maximum happiness in life. "Remember, those who win are those who believe they can."

Nine Most Shocking Secrets Women Don't Want Men to Know....

Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say. They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Read on to discover some of the most shocking secrets women don't want men to know.

Blonds aren’t always dumb- If you thought all of them were dumb than you are strongly mistaken. Hair colour does not affect a person's IQ. They only act dumb to seem cute or get you to spend money on them and if you do that than you are dumb not them.

Women get jealous as hell- They might deny it but the fact is they get extremely jealous even if their man talks to a random female or maybe a friend. She might pretend to act all nice but inside her jealousy volcano is about to erupt.

I am the sexiest of them all- Every woman has this mind frame no matter how much they try to deny it. Almost every woman wants to feel like the one and only beauty queen in the world as if nothing compares and demand royal treatment from all men.

Am I fat- I know you’ve heard this one time and again but let's all admit to it officially! No matter how skinny she is she would never consider herself thin. Almost every woman occasionally asks this annoying question- "Am I looking fat in this honey?”

They always lie about shopping- They might be out grocery shopping but always end up getting something for themselves which they thought was cute. They either try to hide it or lie about its price saying it was on sale.

Don't share secrets with them- If you have than you are already on prime time radio. Almost every woman shares each and every secret with her friends. They tend to share their secrets over a cup of coffee and have a good laugh over it. And yeh when I say secrets it means your private secrets as well ( he he) if you know what I mean.

What shoes are you wearing- If you thought it was a myth than think again. Women do judge a man by his shoes. So better make it a point to wear nice clean shoes the next time you walk out.

They know when you are cheating- Women have inbuilt instincts and emotion system which beeps and alerts when their man is cheating. No matter how big of a player you are you would always be caught no matter what.

An absolute must know for you- This secret is an absolute must know for you no matter what. This is the grand daddy of all which would give you the ultimate power to become a magnet towards which every woman would be attracted.

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