IS IT TIME TO RUN AWAY FROM HIM?

HEY DUDE!
All right, you love to feed the ducks and feel one with the nature but not when your lady is waiting for you

Once in a while, we all do something that drives our loved ones nuts. But too much of it can be disastrous.Let us see the Danger Signs.

When you decide to have a committed relationship, you must also realise that it comes with a small period of adjustment. While you are getting into your couple groove, steer clear from these relationship pitfalls that can break your relationship in the long run. Watch out for these danger signs while staying focussed on building and nurturing a healthy long-term relationship. You can base it on positive communication and of course, love.

Unrealistic expectations:
Expecting to change another person or to ‘fix’ their flaws after committing to a long-term relationship is a big no-no. For one thing, who says they need fixing besides you? Aren’t you supposed to love your honey, flaws and all?

Now, for truly reprehensible flaws – such as digging their nose in public – go ahead and give lessons in etiquette. But for more subtle personality traits, ask yourself if it’s worth making a big issue out of. We all do something that drives our loved ones nuts, once in a while. So do learn to be flexible. Another example of unrealistic relationship expectations is thinking that the other person has the solutions to all your problems. Sure, love makes the world go round but expecting your sweetie to fix all that is wrong in your life is unfair to them. Also, the stress of him or her striving to do so will begin to tell on your relationship soon.

And living through them or solely for them is not fair to you either. You are still responsible for your life and your self-esteem. Sure, love can help smoothen out the rest of your life, but it is not a cure-all. You are responsible for your own happiness. Love is simply the icing on the cake, and not the main course of life.

An honest communicator
Depending on how busy and stressed out we are, we are all guilty of getting out of tune with each other from time to time. The problem starts when this becomes a relationship habit.
Not listening to each other’s hopes, dreams, and fears on a regular basis can lead to a lack of true intimacy. It is impossible to feel connected to someone if you feel they aren’t there for you.
The hallmark of this pitfall is when one partner is unwilling to discuss certain issues and they either avoid the discussion altogether or withdraw verbally or physically.

This leaves the other partner to tiptoe around them because they are afraid of risking anger, withdrawal, or avoidance.

When the discussion is curtailed indefinitely, so is the relationship. In order to nurture your relationship and make it grow, you have to be able to talk about the good, the bad, the ugly, and even the painful truth.

In other words, make honesty, expressing your feelings, and sharing ideas a priority because sharing the good times and the bad times deepens and strengthens your relationship. And you want this to happen, right?

Lack of respect
Take the woman who gives her man the silent treatment and withholds her affection until he gives in to her demands – whether it is cancelling a trip, buying a new car, or tying the knot.
This is definitely not the way to go if you want both your significant other’s cooperation and their lasting affection on a long-term basis.

When you control your partner by constantly harassing them, withholding your love and issuing ultimatums, you are demonstrating that your needs and desires come before your love for them.

Who’s going to stick around for this type of treatment? Avoid controlling behaviour in a relationship. Just because you have pledged your love for someone does not give you the right to run his or her life.

Even though the person pulling the strings may think they’re winning, ultimately, it is the relationship that loses out.

In the same vein, when one partner puts the other person down or constantly second-guesses them, whether it is intentional or not, they are chipping away at their partner’s self-esteem. When you invalidate your partner, you are effectively telling them that they don’t matter. Sadly, this is another example of a one-sided relationship where one partner holds all the emotional cards. And this is a sure-fire recipe for relationship disaster.

Focus on building each other’s self-esteem, not destroying it.